I am just sitting here thinking about grief, and do we really get over it. Processing something like grief is hard to do. People do not process things the same way. Everyone has their own way of processing things that they are feeling. Sometimes people seek grief counseling, and it may, or may not work, but one never knows until they are faced with it. Sometimes it takes years to get over grief, and it doesn’t really matter what kind of grief it is, or what caused it. I know that grief is a part of life and there is no way around it. Something will always happen to cause grief in our life.
When we look back at our childhood, there may have been things that happened to us that caused us grief that we haven’t gotten over even though we are adults now; it is as if it just happened to us yesterday, well, it was yesterday, but just a long time ago, but our mind holds onto the day it happened, and it is always in the front of our mind. Many things happen in a child’s life that they do not have any control of, such as getting a spanking for doing something our parents told us not to do, or it could be that it was something we wanted and could not get it. It could be a many number of things that causes us grief.
The question is this. Do we ever really get over it? By not getting over things, it causes us to become bitter and hateful over time. It festers like a rotten sore that will not heal. Let’s look up the word “Grief” to see what it means.
Grief-Deep sorrow, especially caused by someone’s death.
Yes, grief is caused by death, but as I stated above, there are other things that cause us grief. The important thing about grief is this, we cannot let it control us, we must control it, but in most cases when it comes to death, we cannot control it. It is something that takes time to get over. It takes prayer and reading the Word to help you through it. I can say this because I am going through grief now. If I did not have my Bible, and a place to write about how I feel I would just hold it all in and it would fester, I would never get over it. Sometimes I just have to get by myself and meditate when I am not writing, reading, drawing, or listening to music. It is how I deal with it. I am quite sure there are more ways, but for now this is what I do.
There is a song written and sang by Kirk Franklin, My Life is in Your Hands. I would listen to it a lot when I was getting ready to have surgery in 2009, I had brain surgery. I have talked about this a lot in some of my archived posts, but it helped me to understand that no matter what we face, or what we go through, including grief, our life is in His hands, and He will help us through whatever we are facing at any given moment. Our life is important because we only get one, so, we cannot stop living because we are going through grief. When we are going through grief, that is when the enemy attacks us, because we are at our weakest point in that moment in time. We are not thinking clearly because we are focusing on how we are feeling and not thinking about what the enemy will try to do to us, or make us think bad thoughts. Sometimes grief can be so hard that most people cannot take it, so they make bad choices that cannot be undone. We just never know what is going to happen from one day to the next, so this is why we must try to take it one day at a time, because it is all we are given, just one day at a time.
Live, laugh, smile, cry, scream, dance and have fun, but most of all just enjoy life every day to the fullest, as if it were our last. Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I wrote it from my heart. It has been great sharing with you all on today. I pray your week is very beautiful and filled with love, joy, and laughter. God bless. Thank you for joining me on my journey with Food for the Soul. Stay safe. ©2022
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